Double Feature Post of the Week – It’s Perfect

When I read these two posts, which I’m about to share, it reminded me of a college roommate who said to me, “You’re perfect right now.”

I laughed at him, and then I scowled, “No, I’m not. Why would you say such a thing? Certainly, I’m flawed.”

“Yes,” he said, “but it is your flaws which make you perfect, Amy. You are perfect because you could be no one else.”

In the meantime, I was making plenty of mistakes, and my life was far from perfect. I had aspirations and dreams that needed fulfilling. I lived in a closet, for crying out loud. Yes, I did. I had six roommates, and it was the only way I could be alone. My little room had a skylight, and I could climb onto the roof and see the ocean. Okay, maybe that was a little slice of perfect.

Fast forward a couple of decades, and I was in turmoil when my son’s book report was not going according to plan. His report on an animal, to be done in the shape of the animal he chose to write about (really?) and include hand drawn illustrations, was a disaster! The printer cut off his words and the space was too small for his illustrations.

My son took one look at it and said, “Oh, we just cross the words out, and rewrite it above in pencil, and there’s plenty of room for pictures.” Whew! I know this a little pathetic here on my part. This was really about me and what I expected, and had nothing to do with his reality whatsoever.

I’ll admit that I am an idealist. This sometimes gets me into trouble. As I read these posts, I think about how I’ve slowly been shedding the need for the ideal. I’ve realized that the idea of the perfect situation is typically only what you see and value in your limited perspective. It may not be the best situation for you in your present circumstances at all, especially when it may not take into consideration the lives of people around you.

It doesn’t matter anyway, because that perfect situation that you have so clearly envisioned in your mind usually is not the one that you are in. For me, it’s about finding peace within yourself, and then you can handle life’s curve balls thrown at you.

Without further ado, I really enjoyed the wisdom of these bloggers on the topic of perfection. I thought these posts complemented each other so well, I couldn’t resist putting them together. Ladies, I hope you don’t mind!

Brigitte of Brigitte’s Banter:  Monday Musings and Motivations — Part Thirty-Five — Perfection

Tammy of Life and All Things Love: Letting Go of Perfect

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22 thoughts on “Double Feature Post of the Week – It’s Perfect

  1. Clever girl! They were both great posts. Perfection is such a great topic that can be looked at in so many ways. I think you stated this beautifully – as we get older we shed the need for the ideal. Maybe we start to recognize that it’s not worth the effort and anxiety. Maybe we start to realize that we never actually arrive at that place anyway? It’s far better to embrace what is imperfect and know that it’s good enough. I think imperfect is the new perfect, or is it the new black? 🙂

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    1. Thanks, Lisa. Exactly. We are perfect in our imperfections. Ah, now we can relax! It doesn’t mean giving up on wanting or hoping for things, or accomplishing our goals, but that we still need to be happy with who we are on the inside. I truly believe nothing ever goes as planned, so maybe, just maybe, where you are is where you are supposed to be. The new black? Sure!

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  2. “For me, it’s about finding peace within yourself”—I think that’s so true, because if we’re constantly at odds with ourselves, then perfection will be the least of our worries, and we’ll never be content with where we are or what we have.

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  3. “I’ve realized that the idea of the perfect situation is typically only what you see and value in your limited perspective. It may not be the best situation for you in your present circumstances at all, especially when it may not take into consideration the lives of people around you.”

    It’s like you’re talking directly to me. Thanks for these super-encouraging words!

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  4. These three posts are a wonderful commentary of that illusive perfection that we have all, at one time or another, strived for. Everyone should read this collection and consider it the voice of reason. Thank you.

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  5. Perfection… I can’t even spell that word! Well, without spell-check, anyway. The sad thing is I’m not even sure I have an idea of what that would mean to me. I mean, know I have goals (at least one or two far fetched kind of ones)… but… as far as how to get there (or even measuring any kind of ‘progress’ towards them… I don’t know). Hmm…
    P.S. I used to have a buddy who had a roof-hatch in his apartment. Not many ocean-views in North Dakota… but, it was kinda cool up there. Er, I mean… I would imagine it is. 😉

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    1. Robert, I think it’s perfection to not know what perfection is! There, I said it. I know that makes zero sense. Perfection is only a state of mind, or something. Having had an idea of what perfection should be as a gymnast and a ballerina…there always a model of perfection or at least what it’s supposed to be. So, it’s taken me a long time to let go. By doing so, it’s easier to live more in the present moment. The ideal is probably not what you really need.
      That roof hatch sounds perfect! 🙂

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  6. I’m still on my quest to find peace. I have a type A personality so the perfectionist streak runs strong in me. But, fortunately, since having kids I’ve learned to let go of my ideals. To color outside of the lines. By the way, that closet you lived in twenty years ago, I wish I had one for present day!

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    1. Thanks, Anka. I agree having kids has made a huge difference for me, too. Then, it’s about focusing on the bigger picture, and letting the small stuff slide. But, I still have trouble with that myself. Maybe by the time I’m 70 I’ve have this all worked out! No!

      I want one of those closets now, too. If only I knew how good I had it back then, living in a closet. It was quite easy to keep clean and was peaceful.

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